Narcissistic Abuse Recovery with a Therapist Who's Been There
More than 35 of my clients have left and found peace.
Narcissistic abuse recovery therapy in Idaho with Dr. Elizabeth Wise, LCSW
Why Do You Keep Checking Your Own Memory?
You started writing things down right after they happened, so the facts would have somewhere to live. The notes are accurate, every word. You read them back anyway and still find a way to make it your fault.
Get gaslit enough times, and you start to feel like the crazy one. The other person doesn’t even need to be in the room for doubt to show up.
They Push, and Your Reaction Becomes the Story
A remark aims at the sore spot, then another. The provoking happens quietly, and your reaction happens out loud. The reaction is what gets remembered, by them and eventually by you.
This was someone who loved you. Now it feels like psychological warfare. You’re scared of them. You miss them, too, and those two feelings refuse to line up:
How can you be this afraid of someone and still want them back?
The answer has more to do with your empathy than your judgment.
Why Your Empathy Became Their Way In
Your empathy moves toward pain, and here the pain keeps arriving with a request for help. That’s how a trauma bond forms: your caring gets tied to the one hurting you.
I dig in deep on why and how you were attracted to the narcissist. Boundaries, attachment, and inner child work put the pieces together, so you see clearly why this happened and what you’re meant to learn from it.
Keep Your Empathy and Lose the Hook
Your empathy is one of the best things about you, and it stays. What changes is who gets access to it... and how quickly you notice when someone hasn't earned it.
- Know the difference between empathy and an unhealthy trauma bond
- Take your own memory at its word
- Let a provocation land without handing over your reaction
- Meet someone who needs rescuing and feel no urge to sign up
- Find yourself attracted to healthy people and like how that feels
BATIS has five parts, and they move in three phases.
How BATIS Takes You from Doubt to Autonomy
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Steady Your Own Account
Boundaries come first, around whatever keeps knocking you off balance, and then we begin on the trauma itself. As those memories settle, so does the doubt.
You feel calm enough to trust yourself.
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Why They Felt Familiar
Attachment and inner child work look for where this kind of love first started to feel normal. Once you find it, the reason you were drawn in becomes clear.
The pull makes sense, and it loosens.
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Become Your Complete Self
Shadow work brings integration and individuation, the last steps. Here you find the autonomy you've been looking for so long.
Supreme self-love, with your empathy intact.
Why Trust Me as Your Partner in Healing
Five Parts Built for This Harm
BATIS is the five-part method I developed to reach every place narcissistic abuse took hold.Someone Who Already Believes You
Because I've been there, you won't spend a single minute defending your memory with me.More Than 35 Clients Came Through
I've worked with more than 35 clients who left narcissistic relationships and found peace after years of being controlled.Hi. I’m Dr. Elizabeth Wise
Trauma and narcissistic abuse recovery are my specialties, and they’re also my direct experience. That’s why people tend to get to the truth of things with me faster than they expected to.
You’re the expert on your own life. My job is knowing what to do with the pain and building a plan with you that fits the life you want to be living.
You’ll get real regard from me, for you and for whatever you’re trying to become. We work as a team on this, and the life we’re building toward is the one you define.
Frequently Asked Questions
Gaps and second-guessing are what gaslighting leaves behind, so bring them with you. We piece it together at a pace that lets your memory settle.
I know how a reaction gets pulled out of someone on purpose. We look at everything that came before it, and the whole sequence finally comes into view.
Yes, and the fear is worth listening to. It gets room here right alongside the grief for who they used to be.
The pull to fix has a history, and finding it is the heart of the second phase. Once you can see where it started, you get to choose who you help.
Your empathy stays. Integration and individuation give it better aim, so it goes toward people who give it back.
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This is for you if part of you wants them back and part of you knows they’re SO dangerous – or if you’ve started doubting what you remember. That doubt was taught to you, and it can be unlearned with someone who believes you the first time.
Call me for a free 20-minute consultation: (310) 422-2047. Texting works, too.
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